"When you plant lettuce,
if it does not grow well,
You don't blame the lettuce.
You look for reasons why its not doing well.
It may need fertiliser,
more water, or less sun.
You never blame the lettuce.
Yet, if we have problems with our friends and family,
we blame the other person.
But if we know how to take care of them,
they will grow well, like the lettuce.
Blaming has no positive effect at all,
nor does trying to persuade using reasons and argument.
If you understand,
and you show that you understand,
you can love, and the situation will change.
